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In his research Dr. John Gottman identified the following relationship-destroying communication patterns.
To reverse or correct these patterns, see the Antidotes to The Four Relationship Horsemen.
Attacking another’s personality or character.
The antidote is a Soft Start-Up.
An attitude of overall superiority to another; a lack or regard or respect for another.
The antidote is to Foster a Culture of Appreciation.
Making yourself into a victim in order to prevent an anticipated attack, and to reverse the blame.
The antidote is to Accept Responsibility.
A refusal to engage with another, implying disapproval, and creating distance and separation from another.
The antidote is Self-Soothing.
Next: Antidotes to The Four Relationship Horsemen